How Do I Control My Mindset?

May 27, 2025 | Tip for a Terrific Tuesday

You know, sometimes when we don’t feel good and don’t feel happy, we want to blame others for how we feel.

The truth is, we have to control our own happiness.

You know, you can either be a thermometer or a thermostat. The thermostat controls the environment. A thermometer just goes up and down.

So when things happen during the day, are you acting like a thermometer, or are you a thermostat, where you are controlling your environment?

All of this comes down to your mindset.

What you constantly think about will affect your personal and professional relationships. If you get up every morning, and you think about negative thoughts, then your mind is going to move toward those negative thoughts.

There is something in the brain, which is a filter, called the reticular activating system. It acts much like a water filter, and it filters out good and bad things.

You see, when we wake up in the morning, we have about 90,000 thoughts, most of which are negative.
But you have to control whether you move toward the negative or the positive with your mindset.

So it’s just like if you put dirty water in that filter or clean water in that filter.

Because what you think about is what’s going to control how the rest of your day goes.

So why not get up in the morning, look in the mirror, and at least think about the positive things that you want to do that day, so that your mind can move toward positive thoughts rather than negative ones?

And so your happiness really comes down to you and how you control your mindset.
Close your eyes and lock your mind in on those positive thoughts, and see if you can have a good day, because you are, after all, in control.

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