All of us have had setbacks and disappointments and some failures in our lives when we were a child. Sometimes when we did things that weren’t right, they were met with great emotional intensity when we made an error or mistake, more so than some of our successes. As a result, the brain most easily remembers events that were accomplished by strong negative emotions and underappreciated the number of successes we had because it was not met with many emotions.
The best way to counteract this is to consciously focus on and celebrate your successes. Research has shown many times, that the more you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you will become in successfully accomplishing new ones. So this is why, again, I say keep a celebration. Log where you can write down your successes and the wins that you’ve had on a daily basis so that we can counteract those negative experiences and move toward opportunities and bigger things.